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Questions for Deepening Our Bond
Today, I just wanted to share with you some valuable questions to share with your partner as you make time to navigate the challenges in...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Apr 25, 20231 min read
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Ice-olated on the Holidays
The holidays may serve different purposes, dependent on your family, cultural, religious, or personal traditions. It can also be a...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Dec 8, 20214 min read
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Shattered Heart - Religious Trauma
In the context of religion and the church, many people find peace with prayer, service, or spirituality. For others mental health though,...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Aug 23, 20214 min read
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Let's Go on a Journey - Secure Bonds
I want to take you and your partner on a journey through secure connection - get imaginative and let's see what resonates with you and...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Aug 11, 20214 min read
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"Never Give Up" - Maintaining a "Growth Mindset"
What if the dreams you've hoped to fulfill could motivate or innovate new ideas or pathways for change? Dedication plays an integral role...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Jul 20, 20213 min read
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Developing Mental Health Stability
You've heard the saying, "when it rains, it pours." How do you continue to embrace changes and push past the ongoing rainfall as you move...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Jul 1, 20213 min read
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Before I Walk the Aisle - Premarital Counseling
Here, I want to share with you a few different benefits that can be cultivated if you choose to work through issues early on in your...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Jun 11, 20214 min read
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Guilt Around Sharing Emotions
We didn’t all have the shared experience of a secure attachment in our childhoods, or for a long enough period to build a safe haven with...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Jun 8, 20214 min read
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Cultivating Connection With Your Therapist
Just as attachment theory was cultivated from studies around infant and parent attachment bonds, we have the sole responsibility of...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 27, 20214 min read
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"You're a People Pleaser"
We can learn to reconnect with ourselves and our loved ones in a secure manner. When we learn to look outside-in, we start to piece...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 24, 20214 min read
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Tidal Wave of Disconnect - 'Freeze and Flee' Dance
Even being caught in a ‘Freeze and Flee’ Dance, couples who are dedicated to taking a step into the troubled waters together, and are...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 18, 20213 min read
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"Stop Poking at Me" - 'The Protest Polka'
Being able to catch your cycle in the moment is the first step towards making space for what is pushing us and our loved ones away from...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 15, 20213 min read
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"It's Your Fault" - 'Find the Bad Guy'
We must learn to rise to the surface and help one another grasp what’s happening when we’re caught in disconnect. Blame can easily become...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 10, 20213 min read
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Making Contact
Like storms on the sea, when they lose sight of land, sailors are looking for a source of light to guide them back to shore. Watching...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 8, 20214 min read
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Empathy: A Source of Life
Empathy is a great source for building a safe attunement to our partners. It transcends insecure ways of connecting by delving into some...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 1, 20213 min read
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Leading Someone Where You Haven't Gone
If we learn to confront others experiences with a guard, protecting ourselves from moving too deeply into the waters, we can likely...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Apr 25, 20213 min read
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The Still Face Experiment – Technology
In 2013, Tronick told the Washington Post, ““we just didn’t have any idea how powerful the connection with other people was for infants,...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Apr 18, 20213 min read
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Jumping the Gun – Our Reactions
Our reactions, while valid, can also be a part of how we protect ourselves. In many insecure attachments, we find that there isn’t a...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Apr 9, 20213 min read
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Male Suicidality
47,511 individuals completed suicide in 2019. Of these statistics, there is a great significance around the percentage of men who are...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Apr 3, 20213 min read
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"I Don't Want to be Here." Suicidal Ideation
At times, we might have the answer to our loved one’s pain, but making sure to check in and see that their need is being met can make...

Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Mar 29, 20214 min read
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