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The Still Face Experiment – Technology

a day ago
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The Still Face Experiment – Technology

In 2013, Tronick told the Washington Post, ““we just didn’t have any idea how powerful the connection with other people was for infants, and how, when you disconnect, how powerfully negative the effect was on the infant” (Mock, 2020). In 1975, a researcher by the name of Edward Tronick presented the “Still Face Experiment” to the Society for Research in Child Development. Along with colleagues, Tronick conveyed the message that emotional disengagement with an infant lead to e

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Icebergs – Affairs

6 days ago
4 min

Icebergs – Affairs

Despite our backgrounds or expectations for attachments, we may hit icebergs and endure the trembling waters of affairs. In various cultures or religions, there are different views on how couples are supposed to form their attachments with their partners. Considering research surrounding these findings, we really get to understand the emotional lens of how couples share their underlying feels and attachment needs with their loved ones. The biggest take away I’d like you to re

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Jumping the Gun – Our Reactions

Apr 9
3 min

Jumping the Gun – Our Reactions

Our reactions, while valid, can also be a part of how we protect ourselves. In many insecure attachments, we find that there isn’t a space where it’s okay to simply share what’s going on underneath. Sometimes in our relationships, the hardest thing to do is approach our partner when we are upset with them. I sit with clients every day, and often I articulate that reactions can be so much easier than sharing our very vulnerable emotion. The way we actively handle our emotions

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Male Suicidality

Apr 3
3 min

Male Suicidality

47,511 individuals completed suicide in 2019. Of these statistics, there is a great significance around the percentage of men who are completing suicide in the United States. The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) hits hard with the following findings regarding suicidality in the United States— In 2019, men died by suicide 3.63x more often than women. On average, there are 130 suicides per day. White males accounted for 69.38% of suicide deaths in 2019 47,511 i

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"I Don't Want to be Here." Suicidal Ideation

Mar 29
4 min

"I Don't Want to be Here." Suicidal Ideation

At times, we might have the answer to our loved one’s pain, but making sure to check in and see that their need is being met can make even more of a difference in how we connect. If you’ve ever thought about life, maybe you’ve felt fear about death and what it means to you. Maybe you’ve asked yourself, “what will I leave behind?” Maybe you’ve actually experienced a passive thought around life or death from time to time – something like, “what’s the point?” or “maybe this woul

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Can I Rely Solely on Logic in My Relationship?

Mar 26
4 min

Can I Rely Solely on Logic in My Relationship?

To those we love dearly, we can utilize our relationship, and that safety and security specifically, to provide a model for how we reach for comfort. This is an exact question I’ve asked in relationships in my life. It is a question I’ve searched on Google for, because I felt like something was wrong when I wasn’t able to share those emotions or deepest parts of myself with those in my life. I realize logic plays a key factor throughout our lives—as a student, I needed to abs

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Obstacles in Resolving

Mar 22
4 min

Obstacles in Resolving

The obstacles I speak to here are centered on feeling disconnected, disengaged, or disregarded by our partners. You might’ve felt at times that you weren’t a “priority” to someone in your life, but eventually, you acknowledged that this was your new normal, and you had to accept that this way of connecting was your reality. When we’re reaching out to our partners, we might find that we have sudden moments that we’re jerked back from what we’re trying to communicate with them.

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Alone and Lonely

Mar 18
3 min

Alone and Lonely

If we’re sure that we want to build that secure attachment with our loved one, and they’re dedicated to building that safety as well, we can face the roadblocks together. In therapy, we have a responsibility to help our clients process their emotional struggles. To move in the right direction towards secure attachment, we must cross roadblocks and intersections that can steer us away from our partners— these moments are vital, because they provide rest areas for us to lean in

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Lacking Initiative

Mar 8
3 min

Lacking Initiative

While we must be “showing the ability” to act independently to meet our goals, our secure attachments want to see us succeed—they want to watch how we’re able to take care of our own goals, but they also need emotional comfort when they’re unsure of the road they wish to follow. in.i.ti.a.tive noun 1. Showing the ability to act independently to achieve something. 2. A plan conceived to achieve something. I’m curious where you sit with initiative in your life. When you take a

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“I feel so Insecure”

Mar 6
4 min

“I feel so Insecure”

In the same way we might see clients struggling to communicate their emotions with their loved ones, they may have also experienced something completely disengaging when it came to their own emotional pain. Use today’s blog as a way to understand how it might feel to hear these things from someone you feel safe with. If you haven’t worked with a counselor before, maybe this insight provides a doorway for you to acknowledge your own insecurities and understand if you do feel s

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Trauma is a Treacherous Road

Feb 17
3 min

Trauma is a Treacherous Road

"Trauma is a treacherous road, because without a safe and secure environment, patterns of disconnect and disengagement can lead to further hurt down the road." As a counselor, it is easier to say, “no one deserves to experience trauma of any sorts” than it is to recognize that trauma engulfs our communities, our nations, and our homes. Like makeup, trauma covers the mere complexion of our identities. First and foremost, trauma covers a wide variety of experiences or events in

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