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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Sep 24, 20244 min read
Seasonal Self-Care — Changing Patterns
As we step into a new season, we are faced with the challenge that often comes with shorter days, and longer periods of darkness. Before...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Aug 29, 20243 min read
Therapists Need Therapy too
In my journey towards starting my own mental health practice, I have sailed through many waves -- some of which challenged my presence as...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Jun 21, 20243 min read
Excerpt from "Keys to Attunement"
The following segment comes from an up and coming relationship workbook. This workbook will help partners better understand and navigate...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Feb 29, 20243 min read
"Can Yoga Be a Beneficial Tool for Mental Health Therapists?"
I am praciticing yoga student, and I'm currently in the beginning stages of teaching the practice of yoga to those in my community. As a...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Apr 25, 20231 min read
Questions for Deepening Our Bond
Today, I just wanted to share with you some valuable questions to share with your partner as you make time to navigate the challenges in...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Feb 10, 20234 min read
"I'm a People Pleaser"
“I’m a chronic people pleaser.” “I have a savior complex.” “I am better at showing up for others than for myself.” “I don’t know how to...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Sep 7, 20214 min read
Narcissism and Attachment
Narcissism on its own is a "complex phenomenon," as noted in a 2015 research article (Cascio, Konrath & Falk, 2015). When you take a...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Aug 23, 20214 min read
Shattered Heart - Religious Trauma
In the context of religion and the church, many people find peace with prayer, service, or spirituality. For others mental health though,...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Aug 11, 20214 min read
Let's Go on a Journey - Secure Bonds
I want to take you and your partner on a journey through secure connection - get imaginative and let's see what resonates with you and...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Jul 20, 20213 min read
"Never Give Up" - Maintaining a "Growth Mindset"
What if the dreams you've hoped to fulfill could motivate or innovate new ideas or pathways for change? Dedication plays an integral role...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Jul 1, 20213 min read
Developing Mental Health Stability
You've heard the saying, "when it rains, it pours." How do you continue to embrace changes and push past the ongoing rainfall as you move...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Jun 11, 20214 min read
Before I Walk the Aisle - Premarital Counseling
Here, I want to share with you a few different benefits that can be cultivated if you choose to work through issues early on in your...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
Jun 8, 20214 min read
Guilt Around Sharing Emotions
We didn’t all have the shared experience of a secure attachment in our childhoods, or for a long enough period to build a safe haven with...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 27, 20214 min read
Cultivating Connection With Your Therapist
Just as attachment theory was cultivated from studies around infant and parent attachment bonds, we have the sole responsibility of...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 24, 20214 min read
"You're a People Pleaser"
We can learn to reconnect with ourselves and our loved ones in a secure manner. When we learn to look outside-in, we start to piece...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 18, 20213 min read
Tidal Wave of Disconnect - 'Freeze and Flee' Dance
Even being caught in a ‘Freeze and Flee’ Dance, couples who are dedicated to taking a step into the troubled waters together, and are...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 15, 20213 min read
"Stop Poking at Me" - 'The Protest Polka'
Being able to catch your cycle in the moment is the first step towards making space for what is pushing us and our loved ones away from...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 10, 20213 min read
"It's Your Fault" - 'Find the Bad Guy'
We must learn to rise to the surface and help one another grasp what’s happening when we’re caught in disconnect. Blame can easily become...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 8, 20214 min read
Making Contact
Like storms on the sea, when they lose sight of land, sailors are looking for a source of light to guide them back to shore. Watching...
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Tommy Lofgren, MA, LMHC, NCC
May 1, 20213 min read
Empathy: A Source of Life
Empathy is a great source for building a safe attunement to our partners. It transcends insecure ways of connecting by delving into some...
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