To those we love dearly, we can utilize our relationship, and that safety and security specifically, to provide a model for how we reach for comfort. This is an exact question I’ve asked in relationships in my life. It is a question I’ve searched on Google for, because I felt like something was wrong when I wasn’t able to share those emotions or deepest parts of myself with those in my life. I realize logic plays a key factor throughout our lives—as a student, I needed to abs

The obstacles I speak to here are centered on feeling disconnected, disengaged, or disregarded by our partners. You might’ve felt at times that you weren’t a “priority” to someone in your life, but eventually, you acknowledged that this was your new normal, and you had to accept that this way of connecting was your reality. When we’re reaching out to our partners, we might find that we have sudden moments that we’re jerked back from what we’re trying to communicate with them.

If we’re sure that we want to build that secure attachment with our loved one, and they’re dedicated to building that safety as well, we can face the roadblocks together. In therapy, we have a responsibility to help our clients process their emotional struggles. To move in the right direction towards secure attachment, we must cross roadblocks and intersections that can steer us away from our partners— these moments are vital, because they provide rest areas for us to lean in

We are driven human beings inspired by the world around us— but we are also humans that live in a world that may also perpetuate shame and guilt. Despite mental health being what we focus our eyes on every day with clients, mental health has really shifted dramatically over the years. In my knowledge alone, there are cultural, familial, and political areas of concern that have shed light on mental health as an unrealistic or pseudo- phenomenon in our world. On the other hand,

I want to talk about what drives us to continue our practice, Cultivate Connection Counseling. Hello Everyone, I wanted to talk some about our practice, Cultivate Connection Counseling. The guy writing these blog posts (ME) is Tommy Lofgren, an associate licensed counselor. My fiancé, Luis Madrigal is the current associate licensed counselor practicing with C.C.C. We started the business in December 2020 with the intent of establishing a practice that could expand our knowled

While we must be “showing the ability” to act independently to meet our goals, our secure attachments want to see us succeed—they want to watch how we’re able to take care of our own goals, but they also need emotional comfort when they’re unsure of the road they wish to follow. in.i.ti.a.tive noun 1. Showing the ability to act independently to achieve something. 2. A plan conceived to achieve something. I’m curious where you sit with initiative in your life. When you take a

In the same way we might see clients struggling to communicate their emotions with their loved ones, they may have also experienced something completely disengaging when it came to their own emotional pain. Use today’s blog as a way to understand how it might feel to hear these things from someone you feel safe with. If you haven’t worked with a counselor before, maybe this insight provides a doorway for you to acknowledge your own insecurities and understand if you do feel s

When we help clients embrace their defenses, we allow them to see that sharing their underlying emotional experiences allows them to process their deepest realities Some of the hardest work we do as human beings revolves around building safety with other people. It is far from easy learning to engage softly and vulnerably with others. When I point to defensiveness, I speak to the protective layers of our hearts—at times, we learn that we have done wrong in the eyes of other p