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Lacking Initiative

Mar 8
3 min

Lacking Initiative

While we must be “showing the ability” to act independently to meet our goals, our secure attachments want to see us succeed—they want to watch how we’re able to take care of our own goals, but they also need emotional comfort when they’re unsure of the road they wish to follow. in.i.ti.a.tive noun 1. Showing the ability to act independently to achieve something. 2. A plan conceived to achieve something. I’m curious where you sit with initiative in your life. When you take a

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“I feel so Insecure”

Mar 6
4 min

“I feel so Insecure”

In the same way we might see clients struggling to communicate their emotions with their loved ones, they may have also experienced something completely disengaging when it came to their own emotional pain. Use today’s blog as a way to understand how it might feel to hear these things from someone you feel safe with. If you haven’t worked with a counselor before, maybe this insight provides a doorway for you to acknowledge your own insecurities and understand if you do feel s

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"What's my Diagnosis?"

Feb 28
3 min

"What's my Diagnosis?"

While logic plays a key in motivation and drive for success, processing our hopelessness or helplessness when we feel like we’re failing is the key to emotional comfort. (In the following post, I want to speak to issues that revolve around self-confidence and success in ourselves and our relationships. There will be times when clients might need additional resources, whether other professionals or medication, to address concerns related to high functioning or severe cases of

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Embracing your Defenses

Feb 21
3 min

Embracing your Defenses

When we help clients embrace their defenses, we allow them to see that sharing their underlying emotional experiences allows them to process their deepest realities Some of the hardest work we do as human beings revolves around building safety with other people. It is far from easy learning to engage softly and vulnerably with others. When I point to defensiveness, I speak to the protective layers of our hearts—at times, we learn that we have done wrong in the eyes of other p

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Formula for a Healthy Relationship

Feb 17
1 min

Formula for a Healthy Relationship

Valentine's Day sends an important message about recognizing those we love in our lives. This is a reminder, not just for one day of the year, but every day that we get to build a closer relationship with those that we love. Let's build bonds that transcend holidays. These are vital components for building a secure attachment with your partner. We value the work we do with couples in counseling, and we understand that individuals might also be struggling to building security

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Trauma is a Treacherous Road

Feb 17
3 min

Trauma is a Treacherous Road

"Trauma is a treacherous road, because without a safe and secure environment, patterns of disconnect and disengagement can lead to further hurt down the road." As a counselor, it is easier to say, “no one deserves to experience trauma of any sorts” than it is to recognize that trauma engulfs our communities, our nations, and our homes. Like makeup, trauma covers the mere complexion of our identities. First and foremost, trauma covers a wide variety of experiences or events in

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